Have you ever been so upset with your local school system that you just didn’t even want your child to go to school? Have you been backed into a corner with no way out?
Have you cried every afternoon with your child out of despair?
Have you ever just wanted to throw in the towel and give up?
Well this is for you. Because I have been in your shoes.
For several years there have been questionable things that have happened to our children while at school. Alone they were just isolated incidents, but as a whole they were totally unacceptable.
Teachers hitting students with rulers.
Teachers calling students names, insulting them or picking on them for having acne.
Boy students grabbing our daughters butts “accidentally”.
Principals allowing students to be bullied with no consequences.
Questionable drugs being sold at school.
I told you …unacceptable!!
It wasn’t until our youngest, Mr Southern Jr, was in 5th grade that our eyes were really opened to the magnitude of the problem.
As I’ve told you before … he has severe ADHD as well as some other behavior issues that come with that.
In 5th grade, Mr Southern Jr was bullied by his classmates and some other students. When reported to the principal, two things happened…
- We were told that her hands were tied. She could not make the appropriate paperwork to hold the bullies accountable because it would “lower the schools rating” with the state. (How pitiful is that sh*t?)
- Mr Southern Jr became a target. He was labeled as a trouble-making, problem student. Instead of helping our child succeed in school, his teachers insulted him. They drew attention to his “odd” behaviors and allowed the other students to torment him about them.
He even had one teacher call the principal to her room and say in front of him “Get him out of here and I don’t care if he ever comes back”. Just because he couldn’t sit still.
What the hell? Who treats a child like that.
It was not uncommon for him to come home and cry because he had been treated so bad at school. He would cry because he didn’t have any friends. He cried because the kids had called him names all day and threw stuff at him. It literally broke my heart.
There were many Parent- Teacher- Principal conferences that year. (Not that it did any good to make the bullying stop. It did however show Mr Southern Jr that his parents were not taking sh*t from any of them and he could count on us.)
We barely made it through that year with our sanity intact. Surely 6th grade would better … right?
The first week of middle school in 6th grade, Mr Southern Jr was beat up in the bathroom by a much bigger student. Unfortunately, the school cameras did not have a view in there.
When reported to the Assistant Principal (that very same afternoon), I was told …. are you ready for this…. sometimes the smaller kid gets the short end of the stick!
Excuse me!!! What the f*ck do you mean?!?
Where does this school system get these idiots from?
I send my child to school to learn in a safe environment and that’s the best you can do?
Needless to say … 6th grade was much worse than the previous year. It was the same bullies from 5th grade (only bigger) that continued to be unpunished for the torment they inflicted on my child.
Over the course of the year, Mr Southern Jr had a busted eye from being hit in the face with a hockey stick, he was choked and held up against a cabinet, and punched in the jaw. All this at the hands of much bigger students while teachers were present.
Mr Southern and I were at that middle school at least once a week …EVERY WEEK!! But our complaints fell on deaf ears.
You see …apparently it is much easier to find fault with the victim than stand up to the bullies around here. (I don’t know if that’s the case everywhere but it certainly is here.) He must be doing things to provoke the bullies, right?
We were stuck between a rock and a hard spot. Mr Southern Jr had to go to school. He was already going to the only public middle school in our entire county.
We could send him to one of the 2 private schools near here. One which cost $4308 a year ($356 a month) and the other $6000 a year ($500 a month). Who can afford that much with 2 other kids?
So … we had to scratch that idea.
What other options did we really have?
I did not want my baby to have to endure the daily torture he had been put through for the past 2 years. I didn’t want him to be scarred for the rest of his life because of some mean a**holes in middle school. I certainly didn’t want him to do something to himself or someone else out of despair or hopelessness.
My nerves could not handle it and I was on the verge of kicking *ss and taking names. That’s just how bad it had gotten. No one was helping my child so it was our job to protect him.
We honestly thought we were doomed to be stuck dealing with this sh*tty school system for 6 more years until Mr Southern Jr graduated. We thought our son was destined to be a prisoner of circumstance.
That was until a co-worker of mine mentioned an ad she had seen on TV.
The ad was for K12.
K12 is an online learning program. They “believe every student deserves an individualized education, with careful attention to each learner’s unique strengths, needs, and interests.”
I called the number and spoke with a very friendly representative that very day. But I wasn’t completely convinced that this was a viable option for our family.
Mr Southern and I both work full time jobs. We couldn’t stay home to homeschool Mr Southern Jr. UGH!!
After several more phone calls and what probably seemed like a million too many questions with the extremely professional staff at K12, my heart was telling me … This is it. This is the answer to all our school and bully problems.
I was reassured by K12 that students are super successful with their program. How does it actually work you ask?
K12 has 3 options for you to customize your child’s educational experience.
1. Tuition-free online public schools. These are virtual academies, insight schools, and blended schools. They each develop individualized learning plans for your child to overcome any challenges or obstacles unique to them. You can read more about that here.
2. Online private schools. These are tuition based schools with national and international options. They have flexible programs with multiple start dates throughout the year to accommodate your students individual needs.
3. Individual and supplements courses. These are courses that may be purchased to add to your curriculum if you are already homeschooling you child/children.
We chose the tuition-free online public school option. The most obvious reason was it was free. But does free mean less?
Absolutely not!! Not in this case.
Y’all … this the best decision we could have ever made for Mr Southern Jr and us!!
There are no more bullies.
No more b*llsh*t.
No more crying every afternoon.
Don’t ever think that what you are offered by your local school system is your best option. If you can’t afford a private education for your child that doesn’t mean you have to settle for a sh*tty education or situation.
There are other options for you and your family.
I highly recommend you explore K12 before you throw in the towel. You might just find what you are looking for to free your family from the ball and chains of a less than ideal situation.
YOU are the only person that can stand up and make a change for YOUR child. If you don’t …then who will?
I know we did what we had to do and it has been absolutely wonderful seeing Mr Southern Jr succeed and grow academically.
Has anyone else had a similar sucky situation with their school system? How did you handle it? What changes have you made to help your child succeed?